If you’ve got a boy toddler, this might be a familiar scenario: He throw some sand at a friend. Sternly, you tell him to stop. He looks at you in disbelief, then throws some more.
You remove him from his friend, explaining why. Then he blows raspberries at the friend’s parent. Silently, you wonder if you’re raising a hooligan.
But rest easy, this is not the case. Michael Gurian, author of ‘The Wonder of Boys’, quotes extensive research showing that boys, in general, are hard-wired to behave in certain ways. These includes moving things through space – including throwing them – challenging their friends, and taking risks. We need to learn a new way of raising boys: to understand their behaviour, channel it in constructive ways and, as they grow up, teach them to use their talents and instincts in the service of their community.
This will help them to become happy, well-adjusted men, rather than rebels who engage in destructive behaviour.
Michael Gurian’s observations about uncovering the true nature of boys has an inspiring connection with the true nature of business, says Bertus.
“There is a conventional, and an unconventional way of doing business,” he says. “We have been fed a certain story about it, which has been accepted unquestioningly by our society. But this has negative consequences. It allows self-service at the expense of others, corruption, and other harmful behaviour. In the long term, this means that business doesn’t work, because it cannot last.
“Just as we need to look at the true nature of boys, so we need to look at the true nature of business, questioning everything so that we can find the truth, before making an informed decision.
“Business is all about people. It is a reflection and extension of who people are – their true natures, in fact. At Dolphin Bay, we believe we need to find the truth about a situation and then, by adding value, enable our own and each client’s business – just as we are able to help a child – reach its full potential.”
Our sales executive Mark Duckham puts these principles into practice every day.